When you are feeling stuck and stagnated with your goals, many solutions come to your mind. Perhaps you may need to read some books or consider other strategies, but fixing your mindset is most important.
Mindset Stuff Matters
Like with everything in the self-improvement world and beyond, mindset matters. Yeah, you got me! How you view your problems and your overall belief and thinking process can dictate many things consciously and unconsciously to you. Some are more direct while others we won’t see further down the line, but they’re there.
With this in mind, let me share with us things you can consider when you are developing a goal-setting mindset. They’re
1. Why Does Mindset Matter?
Knowing your mindset or mainframe is one thing, but it’s another to know why it’s worth the effort. Why is it worth investing your time, resources, and effort into it?
The biggest reason is what was mentioned above which is your overall chosen pathways are dictated by your mindset, which is influenced by HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD – the window you see in life. It is your overall mindset that is going to dictate your success or failure, and how you cope with challenges, problems, and more.
It’s not to say all you need is a mindset to achieve success, but your mindset will affect every aspect of your life and will guide you forward. Period!
If your mindset states that your job is terrible or that you won’t get very far, you’ll act accordingly. You won’t be working as hard or have little energy because you spend so much time dwelling on the fact your job is uninteresting, tiring, or unfulfilling.
On the reverse, if you believe your work is purposeful, energizing, exciting, and fulfilling, you’ll wake up with potentially more energy and be generally happy to do work. There is always going to be some action – or inaction – based on your mindset.
How this translates to a goal-setting mindset is that how you set, work, and achieve those goals is based on your view of the world. The actions and the specific details of those actions are all dictated by your view of your goals.
It’s why some people who achieve a big goal feel, get stuck after they achieve it. Some people were only focused on one goal and didn’t diversify or have other things to aspire for.
All the same, some people will struggle because somewhere along the line, how you view yourself, your process, your goal, or any other aspect may not be ideal for you. This leads to #2.
2. How Can I Develop A Goal-Setting Mindset?
As said before, chances are likely that part of your goal-setting mindset is flawed or it’s not serving you well. It’s used as a mental roadblock, and you use excuses to either ignore it or try to move on or feel paralyzed. You want to complete it but end up getting frustrated or coming up with some excuse to not do it.
Like with most things, this is something that you can fix, and part of it is to develop your mindset further or differently. The series of actions you can do for this are many but there’s no superior method. Select one – or more – from the suggestions below and see what they can do for you.
i. Rethink Your Purpose.
This can be broken into two: the goal itself and the reason to pursue this goal.
It’s these two particular aspects that shape your goal and can dictate your overall attitude.
Are you setting this goal because it makes you feel good? Or are you setting this goal because you want or need to achieve this?
Once you set goals that mean a lot to you and that you want to work towards, you’ll be able to tell the difference between these two aspects better. But the most notable difference between feel-good goals and actual goals is the desire to complete them.
This is where the second aspect kicks in, your why (reason) for starting. You’ll find feel-good goals don’t have a strong reason. It’s something that you can delay and don’t consider the consequences. It’s something you can do later.
But if your reason is deep enough, you’ll consider the goal and the tasks associated with it critical to your life. It’s the difference between you feeling satisfied with yourself at the end of the day or dawn. It’s something you always have to do no matter what.
Goals, in the end, are your purposes in life. They shouldn’t be dictated by outside forces. Make sure that the goals that you have are things that you really want to achieve/actualize.
ii. Don’t Try, Just Make It Happen
Even the way you word things in your head or your speech can dictate your actions as well. Many people will say for their resolutions that they will “try” to do something. They never use “I will.” What happens after that is predictable. Three months later, they’re nowhere near their goal.
The problem, in this case, is the depth of commitment one has to their goals in the first place. Like the previous point, if you’re lacking commitment, you’re not going to dig deep for a personal reason to do something. You’ll say things but not mean any of them.
My suggestion is to shift your mindset to where you are more focused on making things happen. If you are committed to something, take the action and trust that you’ll get somewhere with this.
iii. Look for Progression in Many Places.
Naturally, progression toward a goal is great, and people want to see themselves moving the needle. But checking progress all the time can be bad as well. What if you’re not progressing as quickly as you want or your expectations are too high for the results you received?
These things can cause people to lose motivation or feel like they’re wasting time going nowhere and giving up. It’s during this time that I suggest that you look for progress in other areas.
For example, people can often get demoralized when their goal is to lose weight and notice that the weight reduction isn’t changing much/at all despite their efforts. While most people give up or get discouraged, consider looking at other facets of your life. Do you find certain movements to be easier? Have you made any lifestyle changes? Are specific tasks easier to do?
The point is by exercising, you may not be losing weight right now, but you are developing your muscles further and making them better than before.
Another way to look at this is to remind yourself that you are making more progress than someone who is still thinking of doing something rather than doing it – even if it doesn’t seem like it.
iv. UpGrade You
Sometimes you set ambitious goals – goals that are seemingly impossible to achieve right at the beginning. That’s okay. The key to set larger goals is to understand that some goals demand a certain level of quality/stake from you.
Recognize that to achieve some goals, perhaps you need to refine your skills in certain areas or to acquire new skills as well. Whatever the case is, look at the various aspects needed to achieve what you want. Don’t be afraid to do some research and see what other people are talking about on the matter.
v. Remind You That it’s Okay to Fail
Another key aspect of a goal-setting mindset is to understand that failure is okay. As much as you want to achieve a goal in one try, chances are you won’t. You’re going to fail or stall out.
The key is to not see these challenges as something really bad. They’re setbacks – sure, but it’s not the end of the road. All that’s needed from you at this point is to make some changes to your existing structure/system – how you are planning goals, setting goals, and taking action on them.
Remind yourself that failure is an opportunity for you to make things better than they were before. It’s a chance to regroup and make things better for you and that much easier to achieve your goals in the future. The only real downside is that failure can be a harsh blow to you/your ego at first.
vi. Have Healthy Habits.
While your goals are definitely important, it’s also worth looking at the other habits that you are developing.if your goal is to run a successful social media business or anything that demands you to be in front of a screen, chances are you’re exposing yourself to a lot of screen time.
It’s easy for people to overindulge in those aspects and develop habits that cause them to be unproductive or distracted. Furthermore, committing to time on a screen can translate to other aspects of their life declining as well.
The idea of this strategy is to look at what healthy habits you’ve in your life and how much are they addressing your other aspects of life. This doesn’t just apply to things like eating healthy or exercising. Look at how much time you spend time with your partner, other people, and yourself.
vii. Believe in You.
Finally, to develop a stronger goal-setting is to BELIEVE in yourself. here is weight placed on your belief in yourself. It all bounces to your mindset.
If you don’t believe in yourself, you’re not going to be as committed to anything. You might even look at your failures as reasons to never try something like that again because it ended horribly due to your supposed lack of skill or discipline.
It’s easy to think that way and lead to a downward spiral of negativity, but deep down, you know that negativity isn’t true. All that you have to do is find a way to believe in yourself and to keep working at it.
It’s surprising what sheer persistence and adaptability can do for you in accomplishing a goal. And it all starts with believing in yourself.
My Take Home
The way of developing a goal set is to start with a good mindset. It’s wasteful giving start a pursuit without developing the mindset first.
Dr. Mike Ihezuo https://mikeihezuospeaks.net helps organizations to succeed or CALL.
